12.29.2008

Monday Morning Humor...

A friend sent me this lovely greeting...early...but it's has become my new policy to scan my email for important stuff (like editor notes that have acceptance letters attached and mail from family or close friends...neither of which has been filling my email the last two weeks...but I understand...it's the holidays, I'm not emailing my friends too often either...we'll catch up...after the first...I promise...which probably also explains why I didn't actually open my friend's email until tonight...hey, at least it's the same day!)I scanned and then start writing.

Yes, YAY! Today I actually got some writing done and I'm pleased with the effort even though I won't make my target finish goal by the 31st...like fine wine...some things take time...

That...and my cell phone must have rang fifty times interrupting...
What does that say about me that I just can't turn off the ringer...or screen calls...I'm a horrible call screener...I answer...even when I'm in the middle of something. Like the sequel to Voyeur...A menage based story. Their play is dark and dangerous, and for one sadism isn't a game at all…it's an illness. The working title is EDGE. Hmmm...I wonder what that's going to be about? Oh, I do so love the scary dark side of BDSM play:) I think I mentioned before that my ideas for great scenes sometimes scares Sir Hotness...hehehe...I don't think I'm going to let him read EDGE;)

So anyway, found this little note which made me smile and thus I'm sharing it with you:

12.28.2008

You Could Win!

Fetlife, a really great social community for kink-minded individuals is having a crazy contest! And you could win the World's Biggest Kinkiest Holiday Stocking...Ever. Just click the previous link for details...

What do you have to lose?

You could just win a very Kinky New Year!

12.27.2008

From Our House To Yours...


We wish you all the best that life can bring in 2009!

12.24.2008

Merry Christmas Eve

Depending on how my day goes tomorrow, I may or may not be posting...
Grandbabies will be here...
And all three daughters.
And the son-in-law.
And quite possibly, Jazzi's sister Lily...they are retriever-australian shepherd mix and both equally rambunctious...the tree may not survive it...or the cats who both pups like to "herd" from room to room...
I may not survive it...I'm just saying...

Today has been fun though.
Different. But fun.
Normally my idea of Xmas Eve is dinner out...and a movie...cursing traffic is usually the high point though...because everyone on the roads (except for me) is insane, right?
Not this year.
Sir Hotness controls the kitchen...he shops, he preps, he cooks...and then some. Since I ended up in tears Thanksgiving because I felt left out...he's decided that Christmas dinner is going to be a joint effort.
This is scary for the entire family since I am notorious for burning everything. But I've been practicing a little...I've proven I can make a damn good crusty bread and an orgasmicly good butterscotch pie. So that's what I thought my contribution would be...
Sir Hotness had other ideas...so "we've" been in the kitchen all day... seriously... all... day...
It's been fun;)
And just to break the monotony of too many Christmas tunes playing on the CD player (I can only take so much good cheer, you know?) I loaded up some of my fav bondage videos from Hogtied.com and MenInPain.com... and we watched while we baked...now THAT's my idea of some holiday cheer;)

Happy Holidays Everyone

12.23.2008

The Busiest Time of Year...

I'm not a huge fan of the holiday season...I hate crowds...I'm not a big fan of traffic...and everyone on the roads is INSANE...

That said, I did brave the malls on Yule...
And survived...

Since, I've been hibernating, not writing much though...wrapping gifts for round two of the festivities...

Middle daughter and youngest daughter wil be here for Christmas Eve, my grandaughters will be here for Christmas Day...and then we have friends coming in from out of state for the New Year...

The house will be filled with insanity for almost a week with people coming and coming...entertaining...eating and drinking too much...I love THAT part of the holidays...

So today I am mixing up about 13 pounds of dough to be formed into artisan loafs over the next week...tomorrow I will be baking pies. So far I've decided on butterscotch and chocolate. Later, Sir Hotness will be stirring up a batch of fudge.

And in between I'll hopefully be wrapping up the current WIP...
It may require a few all-night writing nights though...

Happy, happy, HOLIDAYS, everyone!!!!

12.20.2008

Happy Longest Night 2008!

Yesterday, I wrote 8k words on the new WIP...I was amazed that they just flew out of my brain...but then I'm on a time line. I want to get it finished and submitted by the 31st. I know 10 days to write 40-45K. Big aspiration...

And if I could have kept up that pace...no problem...but today is Yule...and we are officially spending the entire day as a family. Shopping, cooking, eating...later we will be mulling the Meade we vented on the Summer Solstice...


I think it is officially "too cold" for a fire though...at least I'm not sitting outside during 9degrees F...I'll smoke the house with incense and sage first...

...but no writing...
Anyway, however you and yours are spending the longest night...enjoy:)
Spring is on it's way!


Yule Comments & Graphics

12.18.2008

Is It Time To Spice Up Your Sex Life?


Okay, I admit it...I'm still in that happily blissful honeymoon phase ... two years later... but I also admit that I NEED variety... and I am loathe to ever be one of the 48% of American women who are not sexually satisfied in their relationships...

I'm sorry... I still don't get THAT ... and I tend to harp on it ... a lot! Sexual satisfaction is not your partner's responsibility ... DO SOMETHING ... take matters into your own hands ... really!

But that is not today's soapbox...
Today I want to talk about spicing it up! Change the routine...assuming that 99% of the time you do fall into the same routine, and don't worry about apologizing for that, we all do it...we figure out what works and we do THAT. Easy as 1-2-3-screaming orgasm...I like that too...but it can get a little, dare I say it? Mundane. Yes, even the tie me up and spank me first can get a little ...routine.

So with a few experiments...you can heat up the winter nights:)
Here are a few ideas I'm working on for adding some steam to my winter nights...

1. HOTEL Sex: I admit it, I have a hotel fetish...it started when I was young...too young...sneaking around with that week's hottie...and after a back seat of a too small Honda or two...I started going halvsies on a hotel room...I still get horny every time I see a Red Roof Inn...all that rolling around in crisp sheets, the handy ice bucket for sensation play...at a hotel, you can be yourself...or you can be any number of other women...which brings me to...

2. Role-playing: In my head, I'm often Daddy's Little Girl(and I'm a very bad little girl)...okay, that's a secret that even Sir Hotness doesn't know...so shhhhhh... but seriously...I've been thinking about bringing some of my fantasies out of my brain and into the bed...although admittedly I SCARE SIR HOTNESS SOMETIMES with my ideas...so I have to suggest things slowly, and maybe you will need to add some fantasies gradually...the trick is to make suggestions...I usually offer mine over dinner, right after he took a big bite... if he can chew and respond, I know that we can proceed to the planning stage...if he chokes and takes a minute to breathe normally, I know I've pushed a boundary... one idea he did respond to with enthusiasm was my WILD Animal Game...

3. Animals Come Out To Play: First, pick a species...Second, stay in character as long as possible. His favorite is chimpanzees, my favorite is wolves. So I'll say, "Let's go have some wild monkey sex" that's about as mundane-code as it gets at our house...or I'll just sneak up behind him and start sniffing him like a dog...that usually gets my point across that I want a little rough and wild wolf action...ahem...I've suggested Klingon-games but so far, that's a no-go, I bite too hard without the encouragement of fair-roughness...

4. Marathon Day: is my absolutely favorite. When is the last time you spent the entire day in bed having sex? Been awhile? Let me tell you, the rush is incredible...after a day of orgasm after orgasm after...you get the point...you will start to feel positively "high" ... so pick a day and pick a number, for example you don't stop until both of you have orgasmed 12 times...or shoot for one orgasm per hour for a twenty-four hour marathon...

And if you have a fun way that isn't mentioned here...chime in on the comment section...I'd love to hear how you are spicing up your sex life!

12.17.2008

End Violence Against Sex Workers

December 17th...TODAY...is the International Day To End Violence Against Sex Workers and I found a wonderful blog that said everything I wanted to say...better than I could have said it. So thank you Gina De Vries who writes queershoulder for her post: You Think You Don't Know Us, But You Do

12.16.2008

I Hope She Wins a Fortune

A woman is suing a doctor for her painful childbirth experience...and I hope she wins. After having three babies I can honestly say that I had legitimate complaints after the birth of my first child...

I complained then, during and following the birth...to every doctor who would listen...and the woman in the story's article was eerily reminiscent of my own experience. Although after the birth of my first baby during which I experienced an unnecessary episiodomy...I was sown too tightly closed...making sex and future medical examinations excruciatingly painful or impossible.

My doctor's problem at the time...he wasn't my "regular" doctor...and in his eyes he saw "a young girl who wouldn't make the mistake of going through this experience again...and would be faster to keep her knees together." Even though I was mid-contraction when he said it...I will never forget the meanness in his voice. It didn't matter that I was married and nineteen, a legal adult...in his eyes, I'd done something wrong...and he was going to punish me for it.

So, I say, BRAVO, to the woman brave enough to sue this man...a true sadist...I really do hope she wins a fortune.

12.15.2008

Posting Today At THe Femme's Guide


I hope you will join me at The Femme's Guide To Absolutely Everything...I am sharing a bit about my life and my current insanity...

12.12.2008

Delayed...

I feel like I'm running a day behind on everything...
Yesterday was the full moon, I remembered the day before yesterday...and tonight...but missed it yesterday...

This morning a friend text and asked how the holiday shopping was coming along...holiday shopping? My brain paused...and then I had that "oh shit" moment of panic...

I know you've noticed...I've missed blogging every other day or so...
It seems I'm always playing "catch-up"

Like I said, I feel like I'm running behind...
Delayed...

I've been writing, revising...
Is that really an excuse?
Can I blame it all on the writing process? Yes, I think I must...

So, I apologize, but I can't promise that my regular scheduled blogging will get any more...regular...the WIP seems to be taking every single free brain moment...

I wonder if I can put an I.O.U. under the "Yule Tree"?
I don't think Beautiful Girl will be as understanding...

12.10.2008

Cold, Wet Rainy Day...

Because it's a horrid day...I needed some eyecandy to warm me up...
I decided to share...

12.09.2008

Writing This Week

I am at 78k on WIP "Lovers" ... I plan to go to 85K so, cross your fingers that I finish this week. I would love to wrap this baby up so that I can get going on another that is begging for attention from my back burner...

About Lovers the short blurb...
Love, lust, hate, revenge, heart-break, and triumph abound for four men and five women, experiencing the joys and trials of polyamorous-life Los Angeles-style. They're not above wading into each others drama, wallowing in each others misery, offering unsolicited advice, or swapping romantic partners. The sex is hot, the lust hotter, and the jealousy scathing in this tale of personal evolution where everyone has a stake in the outcome of who ends up sleeping with who.

I've been working on Lovers since August with it moving back and forth between main effort and the back burner...I really slated this one to be done and submitted by the end of October...and since that didn't happen (partly because I wrote Voyeur in the middle) I really want it to be in my submitted file by the end of the month...

And then I can move the other two I am working on from my back-burner (actually 2 of 5...it's a big over...lots cooking in the Roxy Harte brain) to front and center:

Prodigal Slave (very excited about this one as is my critique partner and few dedicated readers)

Vow of Silence (the next Chronicle of Surrender: Dr. Psycho's story...remember George?)

Off to write...
Hope everyone had a great weekend...we had snow...ick...but I took time out to paint Beautiful Girl's bedroom...very cool room now...and went to Urban Krag...always a good time.)

12.08.2008

44% Of American Woman Admit To Sex Problems

Watching the view, my eyebrow went up that 44% of American women admit to being sexually unfulfilled...but only 12% give a damn...

I want to know who these surveys are given to...

Personally, I'd give a damn...are you listening Barbara? I have dumped men who did not fulfill their obligation to have sex as part of the relationship...

And Whoopie...really? Women have more important things to do?

Don't believe me? Watch the View...

Have an opinion? Leave a comment...

12.07.2008

Is It Justice Finally Served?

Maybe you remember the very long car chase...
The months of trial...
Or the highly controversial book..."If I Did It..." in which O.J. related chilling detail about the murder of his ex-wife and mother of his children of which he was found not-guilty.

Unrelated to the murders of Nicole Brown Simpson and Ron Goldman,
O.J. Simpson is going to jail. And personally, I think it is about time...

12.06.2008

Read To The End...

I'm sure by now that you have heard of the sixteen year old boy who was held against his will in a California home for more than a year, being tortured and abused. It now becomes a case of who was afraid of whom...a man, and two women have been charged. Click the story here.

In unrelated news, you may not have heard that late yesterday afternoon, the Parisian branch of exclusive jewelers Harry Winston was the target of one of the world's largest ever jewel heists. The story only becomes interesting because the head like I read stated: Drag Queen Robbers Steal $100 Million Dollars in Diamonds.
You can read that story here.

Why am I starting my sexy, erotica blog with news?
To keep from boring you with the real stuff maybe...

I woke up to snow...yuk.
I'm painting my daughters room in six different neon colors today...and by blogging I'm procrastinating starting...
I climbed at the rock wall yesterday and am frustrated that I seemed to have stalled in the area of improvement...my teen daughter, Beautiful Girl, can climb circles around me...really...and she doesn't even have to be roped in...I try to remind myself that there is twenty-seven years age difference...no, you really do not have to do the math to figure out MY age...

The Good News is that I haven't blogged for a few days because I am writing...
And submitting...
Porn Star is back with the editor, so cross your fingers...I'm trying to keep in mind that a lesbian love story is a hard sell...actually, I've had two previous editors request that I turn it into a menage...one female two males (my dyke girl getting to be a boy for real...yuk) or two females and one male but the male has to be a yummy, likable, alpha male HERO... (if you can't tell, I'm rolling my eyes)...

So I've asked you to read to the end in case for some reason my editor, post revisions, still thinks that a lesbian love story is too risky...

Know of any successful LGBT Publishers willing to actually stand by their "L"?
You know, just so I have a back-up plan..

12.02.2008

Porn Star Revised...

Okay, so I've ripped my ms Porn Star a new one...and then some...then I went back to the original and rewired it...I'm calling it done (the second time around, third, whatever, not the first...which sucked...I can admit that it sucked about my own ms as long as I fix it, right?)

Anyway...I'm reading through it now, hoping to have back to my VERY PATIENT editor tonight...and crossing my fingers that the revision gets her kiss of approval.

I will say that it is not what it started out to be...a menage.
And I love menage as much as the next girl...
But this one actually begged for a monogamous Happily Ever After.

I know.
Who knew.
Really?
OMFG!

I think this happy marriage I'm in is screwing with my head...I'm jaded, right? I don't believe in HEA? I know. Crazy. Next thing you know I'm going to start writing stories that start with the words Once Upon A Time In A Land Far Away...

I'm happy.
It's a schizophrenic, dysfunctional relationship story...with a lot of mindless sex...a lot of mindful sex...and a happily ever after.

Whew.
I'm not done with the read-through yet, but I'm calling this draft of Porn Star done:)

12.01.2008

Voyeur

Wow...sales numbers are in for Voyeur's first month of publication...and I was floored. Actually, I squealed and did a happy dance because I hit a sales goal...and honestly, I needed a kick in the pants because Pornstar (the lesbian erotica that I'm still revising is driving me insane)...

So, I'm psyched!
And Yule is going to be a much happier occasion because I will be able to contribute to the eat, drink, make merry mayhem fund! So to all of my readers who bought and read Voyeur...Thank You! And to my readers who have written saying that they love Voyeur and demand a sequel...thank you for writing and I hope to honor your request as soon as possible:)


Voyuer is my latest release and explores the difficulty of being part of the BDSM scene as a climically diagnosed sadist...it also explores romance against a really kinky halloween party. Did I mention that the heroine is falling in love with two men? Or that they both just happen to be at the same party?
Buy Voyeur now...