Okay, I admit it...I'm still in that happily blissful honeymoon phase ... two years later... but I also admit that I NEED variety... and I am loathe to ever be one of the 48% of American women who are not sexually satisfied in their relationships...
I'm sorry... I still don't get THAT ... and I tend to harp on it ... a lot! Sexual satisfaction is not your partner's responsibility ... DO SOMETHING ... take matters into your own hands ... really!
But that is not today's soapbox...
Today I want to talk about spicing it up! Change the routine...assuming that 99% of the time you do fall into the same routine, and don't worry about apologizing for that, we all do it...we figure out what works and we do THAT. Easy as 1-2-3-screaming orgasm...I like that too...but it can get a little, dare I say it? Mundane. Yes, even the tie me up and spank me first can get a little ...routine.
So with a few experiments...you can heat up the winter nights:)
Here are a few ideas I'm working on for adding some steam to my winter nights...
1. HOTEL Sex: I admit it, I have a hotel fetish...it started when I was young...too young...sneaking around with that week's hottie...and after a back seat of a too small Honda or two...I started going halvsies on a hotel room...I still get horny every time I see a Red Roof Inn...all that rolling around in crisp sheets, the handy ice bucket for sensation play...at a hotel, you can be yourself...or you can be any number of other women...which brings me to...
2. Role-playing: In my head, I'm often Daddy's Little Girl(and I'm a very bad little girl)...okay, that's a secret that even Sir Hotness doesn't know...so shhhhhh... but seriously...I've been thinking about bringing some of my fantasies out of my brain and into the bed...although admittedly I SCARE SIR HOTNESS SOMETIMES with my ideas...so I have to suggest things slowly, and maybe you will need to add some fantasies gradually...the trick is to make suggestions...I usually offer mine over dinner, right after he took a big bite... if he can chew and respond, I know that we can proceed to the planning stage...if he chokes and takes a minute to breathe normally, I know I've pushed a boundary... one idea he did respond to with enthusiasm was my WILD Animal Game...
3. Animals Come Out To Play: First, pick a species...Second, stay in character as long as possible. His favorite is chimpanzees, my favorite is wolves. So I'll say, "Let's go have some wild monkey sex" that's about as mundane-code as it gets at our house...or I'll just sneak up behind him and start sniffing him like a dog...that usually gets my point across that I want a little rough and wild wolf action...ahem...I've suggested Klingon-games but so far, that's a no-go, I bite too hard without the encouragement of fair-roughness...
4. Marathon Day: is my absolutely favorite. When is the last time you spent the entire day in bed having sex? Been awhile? Let me tell you, the rush is incredible...after a day of orgasm after orgasm after...you get the point...you will start to feel positively "high" ... so pick a day and pick a number, for example you don't stop until both of you have orgasmed 12 times...or shoot for one orgasm per hour for a twenty-four hour marathon...
And if you have a fun way that isn't mentioned here...chime in on the comment section...I'd love to hear how you are spicing up your sex life!
