4.05.2018

Being Little In Public (Embracing the DDLG Lifestyle)

Okay, so you've decided you definitely want to try out or dive deeper into the DDLG Lifestyle...
For those of you uninitiated into this particular BDSM subset: DDLG stands for Daddy Dom Little Girl (Substitute Mommy and Little Boy for multiple variations on the theme) ...may find this article of interest: Understanding DDLG Relationships)

*As always I use male gender pronouns for Daddy and female for little because that is representative of my current dynamic.


You may be wondering just how to be your beautiful little self in public, or when you know you will be around people who have no idea you are in the lifestyle, or are totally clueless DDLG exists, and you don't want to clue them in (Think grandma, your boss, your clergy, the lady at the checkout counter wondering if you are a pedophile)

You may be worried about accidentally regressing in a public place and need to have ways to blend in so as not to be obvious (I understand the concern. For me a PTSD Trigger or Random Panic Attack, or Garden Variety Anxiety kicks in and I'm suddenly clinging to an alternate reality and feel like I have one foot in both worlds.) Have a game plan in your mind for if the worst happens, how you can escape the situation until you are ready to deal with it.

If either of these headspaces Curious to Explore or Worried About Being Outed, feels authentic to you, it might be time to explore a few easy to incorporate practices that will subtly allow you to be little in public places that can become easier with time. Remember, start small, don't panic, remember to breathe... and own your identity with pride (even if you're being covert about it)

Keep in mind, everything from here on is merely suggestions or inspiration to be personalized by you based on your little-age and relationship status. If you are a single little, maybe seek out a community friendly caregiver to take you out or even a very close friend to be your accomplice.

Subtle Ways to be in Little Space and not clue in the world...

Behavior:
  • Getting ready to go out is hard! Daddy can help choose the outfit, put on your shoes, and fix
    your hair. Of course you will probably try Daddy's patience by dragging your feet and/or waiting until the last minute... and if Daddy doesn't remind you to potty before you leave the house, he can't get too angry when you immediately have to stop somewhere to potty. JS.
  • Always hold Daddy's hand. If daddy forgets about hand holding, he can't be surprised when bright and shiny, or yummy sweets distract you from whatever boring thing he is looking at and you walk away...
  • Ask for help opening and closing containers
  • Wait for help opening all doors, including car and stores
  • Wait for Daddy to buckle your seatbelt, or remind you to do it
  • Singing, humming, carefree playing. Run, jump, skip, don't step on any cracks...
  • Running normal errands and grocery store runs? Leave time for the toy section, book section, candy section, ice cream section.
Dining Out:

  • Ask Daddy to order for you
  • Order off of the Kid's Menu
  • Order off the regular menu but order Kid Friendly items like french fries or tater tots
  • Order a kid friendly drink: milk, juice, Hi-C, or a milkshake 
  • Find yourself at a dinner party? Appetizers and Snacks Tables offer finger foods easily imagined as Little Offerings! (I've been known to only eat grapes and pretzels because I'm "finicky" ...technically I'm not, but it's an easy sell.)
  • Always be on the lookout for an Ice Cream or Frozen Yogurt Shop!
  • Always have quarters ready for the bubblegum machine! Or Daddy better have some spares!


Clothing:
  • Pull-ups under clothing
  • Onesie worn under clothing
  • T-shirts with animated characters: I have a few really old Sesame Street T-shirts featuring Big Bird and Cookie Monster, one from the World of Pooh, cause Eeyore (Vintage is in)
  • T-shirts from the Gaming World... anything from Mario and Tetra to World of Warcraft and Call of Duty Works (Gaming is cool) 
  • Hoodies, Winter Hats, and Summer Ball Caps with Ears (I have every season covered)
  • Furry or Elf Ears (Not just for Renfairs or Conventions)
  • Plush anything (Tactile is everything, think soft, cuddly, warm)
  • Flannel anything
  • Cute socks (these run the gamut from knee socks, cute cartoon characters to lacy anklets)
  • Always choose colors that make you feel younger...that may be pastels, or rainbow bright, or glittery, or varying shades of black. This is you claiming your version of little and it doesn't have to look like anyone else's version of little because You Do You best always! 
  • Look for reasons to wear your Kigurumi anywhere and everywhere... Pub Crawls, 5-K races, Movie Premiere's etc

Accessories:

  • Backpacks instead of a purse (This is a plus because backpacks come in every style and color imaginable. Dig animation? There is a backpack for that -- fav cartoon character, Disney princess, or anime hero? Furry details? Glittery? Black leather and studs?)
  • Tiny, tiny purses...shop the kids section of any department store, or order from a specialty shop online
  • Bring along a stuffy or doll. If you are in college, this is easy peasy...claim your emotional support stuffy is easier to manage than keeping alive a support animal. If you hang out in boardrooms, this might be harder, but still doable. I've kept a Kid Meal doll in my for years.
  • Ink Pens with fun ink colors!
  • Pens/Pencils with Fun Toppers! (Bonus: no one will walk away with your unique item)
  • Stickers on Everything and left everywhere... cause stickers
  • Hair bows, Fun Headbands, and Clips
  • Bubbles ... keep a small bottle of bubbles in your purse to leave a little happy floating on the air wherever you go
  • Glitter ... glitter on your face and body, in your hair, on paths ... sprinkling glitter lets like minds no you are in the area

Activities:
  • Playing at a park
  • Coloring outside sidewalks with chalk
  • Arcades
  • Find a Local Coloring Club (or start one to meet once a week at a library, community center, or bookstore, because adult coloring books are big business and everyone needs stress relief!)
  • Join a role playing or reenactment group
  • Theme Parks
  • Water Parks
  • Join or Create a Young Adult Book Club and mix classics like the Harry Potter series, with newer releases (if this becomes your personal project you can personalize even more with reading prizes and games to amp up the fun!)
  • Monthly Fun Field Trip! Go with your significant other, or friends who don't even have to know your lifestyle to do a monthly activities like attend a Disney movie premier, go to the zoo, aquarium, laser tag, putt-putt golf, or nature center)
  • Bicycling! Discover your local biking trails!
  • Little Day is all about you from beginning to end and should include fun food, fun outing, and fun small treat (even if its just a $1. kid toy from the Dollar Store)
Unabashed Self-Promotion: I love writing DDLG inspired stories. Find them on Amazon.com

and coming summer 2018
A LITTLE TEMPTATION
Plus...
more DDLG Stories are coming when I introduce Josie in A LITTLE RAGE ISSUE

so be sure to find me...

at Facebook
Littles Group (pm Roxy Harte for invite to this secret group)
at MeWe


4.02.2018

RELEASE DAY! PRODIGAL SLAVE

 A summons from the man she once called Master turns this soccer mom’s world upside down.

Recently divorced soccer mom and paralegal extraordinaire Charlotte Sullivan has a secret past life that returns to haunt her on her birthday in the form of a perfectly gift-wrapped, blood-red velvet bustier, followed by a summons from her once master, François Rene de Hart.
 Pure lust awaits a mere train ride away, but she fears the journey may break more than her heart the second time around. With her twin teenage daughters in Europe for the summer, the opportunity to relive her youth with a man she once loved seems too good to be true.  Curiosity and temptation win out over logic. It’s also a chance to be bad, and she hasn’t been bad in a very long time.
  But more surprises are in store for Charlotte than merely a reunion and quick hook-up. François’ current lover, Pierre-Louis, is very much a part of his life, and if she wants to be truly reunited with her Master, she must learn to love the other man as well. The fact he is a much younger man is daunting to say the least.
Available in ebook and print!
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CDDNZ9R

This is a rerelease of a previously published novel that has been updated and expanded with even sexier scenes!

Guilty Pleasures reviewer Kitty gave Prodigal Slave 4 STARS and said:

"Prodigal Slave is a look at the darker side of BDSM. It was a very alluring book right from the beginning. It tells the story of a woman, Charlotte, who gave up her life as a Slave to fulfill her dream of having children. ...Roxy Harte weaves a beautiful tale of love lost and then found again. She incorporated Charlotte’s children into the story and found a way for them to accept the life that their mother has now decided to lead. You go through the emotions of all characters right with them, the love, the hate, the sexual needs of all three of the main characters. It was a story that grabbed you right from the beginning and didn’t let you go until the end. I would highly recommend this book if you are interested in romance with BDSM on the side.