44% Of American Woman Admit To Sex Problems

Watching the view, my eyebrow went up that 44% of American women admit to being sexually unfulfilled...but only 12% give a damn...

I want to know who these surveys are given to...

Personally, I'd give a damn...are you listening Barbara? I have dumped men who did not fulfill their obligation to have sex as part of the relationship...

And Whoopie...really? Women have more important things to do?

Don't believe me? Watch the View...

Have an opinion? Leave a comment...

How Many Lovers Have You Had?

Don't worry, you don't have to answer here...unless you want to...I do love a full comment box ... *wink*

This article says that the average woman has six lovers in her lifetime...ahem...I don;t think I'm average, but still...

A long time ago (when I was a teen) I read a magazine article that answered the question..."How do I know I'm a slut?"

I liked the article because it allowed a woman one lover per year old that she was to not hit "slut level" ... keeping in mind that I was a teen and had a lot of catching up to do...

My favorite scene in a movie occurs in Four Weddings and a Funeral when Andie MacDowell counts down her lovers on her fingers in a conversation with Hugh Grant...and he admits that he doesn't know what he's been doing with his time...

So...does anyone out there have an opinion? Or am I the only one appalled that the national average for women is SIX?

Own Your Sexuality

Soon after I started dating Sir Hotness...days...he posted this picture on his Myspace page to remind him of what my soul looked like. I think after I'd gotten over the shock that he could see me so clearly, I appreciated him even more...as a friend, as a lover, but also as that ellusive one my soul had sought for centuries.

He's told me more than once that it is because I am who I am, unwilling to wear masks, unwilling to conform to anyone's idea of who they think I should be that attracted him to me in the first place. Part of what makes me...me...is that I own my sexuality.

I found this lovely You Tube Video and I agree with most of it...but she only includes three types of orgasms vaginal, clitoral, and g-spot(and a forth is you count brain orgasms). I feel she neglected to mention anal orgasms...they happen.

She feels surprised that a woman in her fifties may have never experienced an orgasm before...again it happens. Shame about my body was instilled in my mind from an early age. My mother didn't want to address the fact that I even had breasts let alone take me to the store to actually buy a bra (how embarrassing for her.) And heaven forbid if I should have an itch "down there" because you don't touch that...

So if other womens mothers were like mine, yeah, I totally get how they were never brave enough to explore their bodies. Thank goddess, I'm a rebel, I've been touching "down there" since I was about six...

Did you grow up thinking that good girls are quiet and submissive?
Good girls don't enjoy sex?

So many contradictions. Is it any wonder I spent my youth trying so hard to be a boy?
Boys always got to have more fun and right up until the time I couldn't hide the fact that I had breasts...I was right out their amongst them...riding bikes, climbing trees, rummaging through dumpsters for treasure, fighting (oh, how many boys did I make cry because I could throw a solid punch...lol), playing war (I had to be the POW because everyone knows that the POW gets tied up!) and cops/robbers, cowboys/Indians (I always wanted to be the robber and the Indian, what does that say about my psych?) Damn it, boys had more fun...

And then I reached puberty and I found out that boys really got to have more fun.
Our world is a contradiction of gender...

Men can masturbate.
Men can have multiple partners.
Men become men when they have sex for the first time and are ofter encouraged to do so at a very early age...

The same woman who accepts that her boyfriend, lover, husband is sleeping around because he just has a lot of testosterone will be the first to call the woman he's sleeping around with A WHORE. A SLUT...

I won't own either of those labels, but I will own my sexuality.

I'll admit it...I've always hidden the fact that I masturbate. Hell, I masturbate daily, one of my safety mechanisms that kept me from being too promiscuous...And thank goddess I'm through my PRIME because all I wanted to do was masturbate. From age34-37 I could have sex for hours and still hide in the bathroom masturbating. My daily masturbation jumped from once or twice a day to ten or twelve times a day. A single lover can't keep up with that kind of need. Is it any wonder that mid-thirty a woman starts finding early-twenty males too much of a temptation to refuse?

The chemistry matches...just my theory and if you haven't hit your prime yet...you have no idea...

And since I've lived to tell, I have a WIP that is about that very subject matter...a woman's prime. More details as I work it out!

So all I'm saying is own your sexuality...your darkness and your light.

FYI: I posted at The Femme's Guide.

Iron Man

I took a break from writing yesterday to go see Iron Man...
The break was good for me and my family because they got to see what my face looks like for a few minutes without it being semi concealed by my laptop...the break was bad for my writing because I left when I was on a roll and getting on a roll has been more and more difficult of late...high stress...don't ask. So my hopes of hitting 6k words dashed and I settled for 4k, hoping a good nights sleep would again spark the creative muse...hmmm....waiting...maybe my muse is still asleep.

Anyway...
I think when I heard that Robert Downey Jr. was playing Ironman, I was probably the one you heard screaming...I was also jumping up and down with glee...but definitely screaming. I have watched Rob's career since I fell in love with him in The Pickup Artist and held onto the hope that he would rise above the addictions and etc that kept him in the tabloids for all of the wrong reasons. I think Ironman is his best to date, although I will watch Home For The Holidays every Thanksgiving from now until I am too old and senile to remember who I am, much less him, although I will probably still remember him...if only in my dreams.

Why is Ironman the perfect role for DowneyJr? It allows him to combine all of his best traits...his cocky arrogance, his sexuality, his incredible intelligence...

Honestly, I think if I could give my character Garrett Lawrence, from the Chronicles of Surrender series, a Hollywood face...it would be Robert Downey Jr. I mean, come on, can you imagine him wearing leather? And wielding a flogger?

Yeah...I need to go take a cold shower now...
Enjoy the Ironman trailer while I'm away?