You're Gonna Have To Touch Yourself

Okay, ladies, after an alarming private email, I decided that yesterday's post needs to be expanded on. I didn't realize that when I put out the command to tell the guys what you like and how you like to be touched it could cause so much stress. My emailer explained, "I know what an orgasm is, because I lucked out once and a random partner did the right thing at the right moment and wow, but then I never saw him after that to know if he could make it happen again."

Without being too nosey, I'm sorry you never had the opportuntiy to enjoy this man again, but don't dispair. Let's go back to the part where he did the right thing at the right moment, could you reproduce what he did if you did that for yourself? (And yes, I realize, before some smart ass points it out that if the guy was performing fellatio, it might be hard to do exactly what he did) but given a quiet room, some lubricant, and the permission to touch yourself...

Go ahead, stop reading...you can come back later...right now would be a good time for a little old-fashioned masturbation, and yes, I'm giving you permission to touch yourself, make yourself feel good, and realize the orgasm may not happen the first time or the second time, but if you keep at it, you will definitely learn what feels good...and what doesn't. And that is the goal, learning to make yourself feel good, and then with time, the feeling good will turn into feeling even better, until voila...you can orgasm at will...whenever you want to...and you won't have to wait for the guy to do the right thing at the right moment by chance...you can also teach him what makes you feel good...if you wanna.

So, if you are reading, I'm assuming you took the time to go pleasure yourself a little and I want to be the first to congratulate you on your effort, regardless if you orgasmed or not. Don't be embarressed. For a while, touch yolurself every day...until you become an expert at touching your own body. And if by chance, you're still reading, but didn't take the time to touch yourself because you think it's wrong, or evil, or because it wasn't dark enough outside...whatever the excuse...please know that you have probably been conditioned to think that it was wrong to touch yourself at an early age by your parents...though negative messages.

You can start to overcome these feelings of being "wrong" by feeling sensations with a not obvious intent to solely masturbate. One of my favorite methods of self pleasure rarely leads to orgasm, but it feels so damn good it's worth mentioning now as a way to get to know what you like. First, run a bath, very warm is good. Once you are in the water, feel what the water feels like when you make ripples. Then, add some oil to the water, and rub some across your body as well. Soon, you will notice that the contrast of the water against your oily skin is greater, your skin actually feels more sensitive. Now, might be a good time to touch yourself...